No. 1 – About Nate

You will find through the words on this blog, that I grew up in an intense religious environment. I was a very sensitive kid. Even through continued hardship, I always believed in and found comfort in God.

There was a lot of sadness in my life. The therapists call it “complex trauma.” There were boatloads of bad examples of what you say and do to a child to ensure they learn how to perform through religion in order to escape their own shame. The performance is like putting on a stunningly detailed mask: One that hides your truest self while everyone else sees its exterior glory.

No. 2 – Introduction

Sasquatch Zip line. Whistler, BC: 2016 Saved verb past tense: saved; past participle: saved keep safe or rescue (someone or something) from harm or danger. synonyms:  rescue, come to someone's rescue, save someone's life; More keep and store up (something, especially...

No. 3 – Who is this blog for?

Cinque Terre, Italy: 2015 To the curious friend and churchgoer who isn’t sure where they stand on LGBTQ issues: Thank you for joining this and entertaining your curiosity. I know how often anything surrounding these issues has been radically revealed as sin, sin, sin....

No. 4 – Shame, on me

It took me 40 years to learn how to say “no thanks” to a Super Bowl party. Oddly enough, regardless of my complete lack of interest in football, I have hosted several of the parties myself. This year, on Super Bowl Sunday, in learning to listen to myself, I declined...

No. 5 – Be careful little eyes…

Last week a friend was sharing about her trip to Vegas to celebrate her 40th. She had two friends in tow, and splurged on a helicopter ride from Vegas to the Grand Canyon.  Her remark clearly shared the vision of what took place. “As we approached the rim of the Grand...

No. 7 – Goodbye, Mile High

It was a simple offer. “I have two free flight vouchers to use this weekend. Want to go to Denver?” I watched tv as a child from our Alabama home, with envy. Anyone who did not live in a place with sweltering humidity, and heat stroke warnings from July-August,...

No. 8 – Thy Will be Undone

Amsterdam 09.2018 One of the primary messages you receive growing up in a religious and southern culture, is that being saved means that in the end, your dependence on God is the primary security of every human matter. There is safety in knowing that if you are...

No. 9 – Respect the Roar

Cologne Cathedral: Cologne, Germany. 09.2018 In my last blog, I shared details of what I had remembered to be my introduction to sexual abuse. The timing of sharing that information was in line with my original planned timeline. That timeline was written months ago,...

No. 10 – The Who-What-Where Effects of Abuse

Entrance to Westminster Abbey London, England 10.2018 This morning I boarded a train to London after a stunning exploration of Dublin, Ireland and Edinburgh, Scotland.  London is my final stop where I will reunite with friends who are also wrapping up a long trip...